Still Trying/TTC: PCOS – Tara’s story

Tara’s been kind enough to share her experience of having PCOS with us today. With a wedding in the not too distant future, Tara’s about to pluck up the courage to re-visit her GP. Anyone out there with any encouragement or stories they’re able to share with her? Thinking of you, Tara x

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I was never the ‘play with dolls and pretend they were my children’ or ‘plan the wedding from when I was 10′ type of girl. I always wanted the Prince Charming but the rest of it never really bothered me.

So after many years of period problems from the age of 13, and lots of blood tests, ultrasounds, scans and urine tests, at aged 18 my consultant told me I had polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS), and that it was that bad that I had only a 10-20% chance of being able to conceive. I remember being sat there and thinking that it didn’t really affect me, it wasn’t a big deal. Sat next to me my mum was crying.  She was upset for me and then couldn’t understand when i just shrugged my shoulders and said it didn’t matter.

Since then the PCOS has had an impact on my life on and off for the last 8 years, either having no periods for years or having ones that last 67 days (seriously, no joke and over Christmas not fun I can tell you), to having excessive hair growth, facial hair, and struggling with my weight. For the most part I didn’t think about having children, it wasn’t anything that concerned me, there was always other options, right?

Eight years on and life’s a little different.  I am due to get married in just under 8 months time, and all I can think about is having a baby. Since meeting my other half we knew we were right for each other, we haven’t had the easiest of times since we got together, through one thing or another, but we knew we would want to settle down, get married and start a family together. He has a child from a previous relationship who we both adore.  I was always honest about my potential fertility problems, and for the most part I have been on some form of contraception during our relationship so it wasn’t something we worried about really.

In the last 2 years, I have become so broody its unreal! When my implant was due out last April we decided that we would not use any form of contraception and see how my body reacted and if we could get pregnant or not. I spoke to my GP and as I have moved areas she wasn’t fully aware of my situation so I explained everything and all the help she could offer was “we will wait and see after at least 6 months”. Well here I am now 9 months later about to go back to the GP! Since the implant came out I have had no periods & mood swings. I have put off going to the GP as I am scared of what they will say. As per usual I will be told that I need to lose weight, but other than that is there any hope? Now I realise why my mum was crying all those years ago and wish I had done more when I was younger to help myself now!

 

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20 thoughts on “Still Trying/TTC: PCOS – Tara’s story

  1. Tara, that is a cruel hand you’ve been dealt there; nothing crueller than having your choices removed by Mother Nature. But you must go to the GP. Must. None of us can tell you whether there is any hope-it’s hard, but you need to know. I’m also not sure you could have done anything to help yourself when you were younger; hindsight is always in 20:20. There were things I cold have done differently, but hey, that ship has sailed-we can only deal with what we have now.

    Please go to the GP, have some investigations done and put your mind at ease, one way or the other. They’re there to help you. And let us know how you’re doing, of course!

    Much love, xxxx

  2. I feel for you being in your situation. I really hope your appointment with your gp gets the ball rolling to further investigation and possible assisted conception. You sound like you have a good husband to be by your side and have age on your side. Wishing you all the luck in the world with starting a family x

  3. Tara thank you for your post! I really do hope that you get the medical help that you need and that your future holds your much desired family.

  4. Oh Tara, thank you for sharing. I hope that your GP is able to come up with some solutions for you, and in the meantime, that the wedding planning is all going well, x

  5. Thank you for sharing Tara. I hope your appointment goes well. As Sange says, it’s so important to go.
    I wish you all the luck in the world, lovely x

  6. Best of luck with your GP appointment, I know exactly how you feel. There are plenty of nice ones though who will be able to get the ball rolling and help instead of just judging though, if you don’t get the support you hope for maybe consider moving to another GP or even another practice. Good luck with the wedding too!! xx

  7. hi tara, im simonne im 25 and have PCOS and insulin resistance. i was also on the implant, my periods returned after 78 days and i believe this to be becasue of metformin. i really think the GP/endocrinologist needs to put you on this pill ASAP. its proven to help. Also the cambridge diet has been proven to help ladies with PCOS.
    i hope this helps Good luck with your journey
    simonne xxx

  8. Tara I am not sure what support you are getting from your GP but it doesn’t sound enough, I too have PCOS and was told my chances of conceiving naturally were minimal. At 21 I diddnt care about that, at near on 30 its starting to worry me a bit more. I too have the joy of the excess hair, the absent and then constant periods (3 in a month was my record but thats nothing compared too you) I know my chances of falling are minimal.
    Not sure if thats any help but I wanted to say you are not the only one with this issue?

  9. Hi Tara
    It took them a lot longer to tell me I had PCOS, by the time they did I had a BMI over 50, insulin resistance and the craziest periods in history! They tried me on metformin, but like you the side effects were a killer and it just wasn’t for me. I had a couple years break from it all, then went back to the doctors ready to do something about it with my clock ticking. That was 10 months ago. I’ve lost 6.5 stone and my bmi is now 39 and still dropping, so my gynacologist is starting me on treatment to regulate ovulation having checked everything else out as a OK – the bmi is still high and he says it make take a few cycles, but if I keep on loosing, he is confident we shall get results.
    Loosing weight is always hard and with the PCOS doing its best to stop you, its even worse, but if you keep your eye on the prize and have a supportive daddy to be and health professionals, it can be done. Every time I’ve thought about giving up, I think about the little family I am doing this for.
    Good luck, if I can do it, you can too!

  10. Dear Tara,

    we the womes suffereing from PCOS are sailing almost on the same boat… yes its hard to console oneself and assure that one fine day its possible… Metformin is a boon to ladies with PCOS am on it since last three months and fortunately i have no sideeffect at all… Like you am too very desperate to have a baby… obstacles are surely there but its not that you cannot cross them… have hope in god… completely trust on him one day defnately he will lsiten to you… all the womes with PCOS wish you baby dust soooooonnnn… ameen and specially to you tara…. hope for the best.. stay cooll..

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